Men who fear of Commitment May lack self Esteem

1.May be he loves you so much but he hates himself even more

He’s lost. You two may have such an obvious, beautiful opportunity for love but he squanders it.
He only sees his own shortcomings. His pain and depression is like a dark, heavy, thick blanket that he just can’t shake. But like I said above, he may not even realize it.


2. Maybe he likes attention from others, flirtation and come-hither looks.
He seeks attention and approval from other people 
he is crazy for attention

Having low self-esteem is like being in a courtroom. And you’re guilty until proven innocent. He’s shameful at the core of his being. His soul appears blackened, damaged and irreparable.He craves escapes from reality.

3. He believes he must have " got lucky" he feels unworthy of you. 



4. He may be restless as if he is trying to prove something to the world or to himself. 

Some call it ‘hustle’ or ambition. Maybe he has grand ideas or entrepreneurial zeal up the wazoo. He wants to create something that will change the world. That’s wonderful, but in his case it may be a cover-up: a distraction from voices in his head. The voices that say, ‘you’re not enough’. He’s trying to create a life that will prove his worth.

These accomplishments give him hope that maybe one day, just maybe he will be able to like the man he is. After he does all this awesome stuff.

5. He can be extremely jealous and insecure around other guys.

6. It can be near impossible to get him living in the moment.
Many guys with low self-esteem are living in the past. He may be guilt-ridden and woeful over opportunities he failed to seize.

He probably just feels he’ll only worthy of you once he conquers the world. He feels he’s unworthy of happiness until he proves himself.

7. True commitment scares him a lot - but not for the reason you think. 

In my relationship, I was afraid because I didn’t know who the hell I was. The only parts of myself I knew were sh*t. I didn’t feel like a good person, so who would want to be with me? I convinced myself that I was helping by not giving her marriage or children. By not giving her 100% true commitment I was doing her a favor.

I didn’t believe in myself. I had no faith in my own goodness or potential. I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle the hard times that would come.

8. He may enjoy seeing you in pain or suffering for the relationship

Because this proves to him that he is worthy.

9. He doesn't love himself fully. 
So the parts that he doesn't like in himself are undeveloped.